Relationship talk  

Posted by Tolulope Akanni

What's happening to this our generation?
People are fast giving up on relationships. After one, two and maybe three tries, we just give up on emotional intimacy. We see no need in giving out ourselves to the "loving" thing; we see "dating" as suicidal.

Where is all of these coming from?
Why do relationships fail? Most of the relationships we are in do fail really because they have to fail, if we sit down to analyse our past relationships, must of us would rather not step into them again if we had a second chance. We would say no to such relationships due to a lot of factors other than the fact that it would still leave us broken at the end of the day.
But again, can we now say there's no fun in broken relationships? Because overtime, we've seen people who take pride in celebrating numbers, yes, number of old/broken relationships they've been in.
It's a compicated world!

So what's the trend?
The modern trend now is that everyone wants to have fun! Fun is the main ish now, it's the happening thing! But can we now say relationships of old were void of fun? Nay! Fun has always been a major motive for making relationships, but the definition of fun has evolved.
In this age where making out and having sex is a priviledge that comes with some form of friendships, people don't see any need to be committed again.
Why get a partner that would tie me down in the name of relationship over things I can get outside the barriers of relationship?

Again, we all believe there's time and now is not the time to be tied down, so let's enjoy freedom. But can we really call this freedom? Freedom u explore from when u are 17 till 27 and after that period of 10years, there's serious need for u to get serious, so u take that walk with ur partner to the altar and make ur marital vows before man and God. And say ure alive till ure 80, that equals 53 yrs of being tied down!!!
0-17 : tied down for 17years
17-27 : exploring; 10 years of freedom
27-80 tied down for 53years
Now because those 10yrs of freedom is silently embedded in our formative years, our system is programmed to freedom. 53 years now feel like a burden. U feel limited cause ure optionless...u crave for those 10years to come back to u. Those loose 10years, the serial short relationships that perforated the pages of ur romantic history text.

53 years now feel like a burden, so committment issues start coming up, u wish u never made that choice, u wish u could travel back into the age of freedom, and re-stategise our exit from freedom, divorce is given serious thoughts.

I don't even know what more to say, I'm feeling sleepy here. But i'ld love to hear ur thoughts on this topic, am I the only one seeing things like this?

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4 comments

I guess we all think like this at certain times. When we're ready, we'll do what works for each of us.

April 24, 2010 at 12:19 AM

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April 24, 2010 at 12:48 AM

look the thing is well people like freedom n freedom is not really free... thats wat people dunno... but then who knows? who cares? its lyf... lets live it...

April 25, 2010 at 4:40 PM
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